In this video, Dr. Frankie explores what it really means to “love your body” and why that expectation can feel overwhelming, frustrating, or even impossible.
We’re often told to embrace body positivity as feminists, as queer people, and as sex-positive people. But what if your body has been a site of trauma, illness, dysphoria, shame, or constant cultural scrutiny? What if love feels like too big a leap?
Dr. Frankie suggests starting somewhere more realistic: body neutrality.
In this conversation, Dr. Frankie covers:
✨ Why body neutrality can be a powerful starting point
✨ How shame about your body connects to deeper narratives about worth and lovability
✨ The impact of trauma, disability, chronic illness, and trans experience on body image
✨ Reconnecting with pleasure, both sexual and non-sexual
✨ Mindfulness and movement as ways to build a relationship with your body
✨ What it looks like to care for your body with compassion rather than self-improvement
This isn’t about forcing yourself to feel beautiful. It’s about building a grounded, compassionate relationship with your body, one small, sustainable step at a time.
If you’ve ever felt pressured to “just love yourself,” this video offers a gentler, more realistic path forward.
💬 What has helped you feel more at home in your body? Share in the comments.
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In 2022, Dr. Frankie gave a TEDx talk on the topic of sexual_ fluidity. You can watch it here:
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