“Never go to bed angry” is one of the most common pieces of relationship advice—but is it actually good advice?
In this video, we unpack the truth behind this popular relationship rule and explore why sometimes it’s healthier to pause a conflict rather than force a resolution before bedtime.
We’ll look at:
💛 Why unresolved conflict can feel especially difficult for people with anxious attachment
💛 How avoidance and stonewalling can make conflict worse
💛 Why rushing to resolve an argument isn’t always productive
💛 How healthy conflict can create greater intimacy and understanding
💛 Why distress tolerance is one of the most important skills for a lasting relationship
💛 The role of repair, reconnection, and working through relational friction
Healthy relationships aren’t built by avoiding conflict. They’re built by learning how to stay present through discomfort, communicate honestly, and repair after things get difficult.
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Recommended Books:
Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection
https://amzn.to/4c7bVqL
Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Love, revised edition: Relationship Repair in a Flash
https://amzn.to/4xltGv1
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (The Dr. Sue Johnson Collection Book 1)
https://amzn.to/4glPHDS
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