Struggling with mismatched desire in your relationship? You’re not alone.
In this video, Dr. Frankie Bashan breaks down the difference between spontaneous desire and reactive desire, two common and completely normal ways people experience attraction and intimacy.
Learn why one partner might feel “in the mood” out of nowhere while the other needs time, connection, or physical touch to get there, and how understanding this difference can reduce frustration, improve communication, and create a more satisfying sex life.
Whether you’re feeling disconnected, confused, or just curious about your own desire style, this conversation will help you better understand yourself and your partner.
What you’ll learn:
➡️ The difference between spontaneous vs. reactive desire
➡️ Why mismatched libido happens in relationships
➡️ How to manage expectations and avoid resentment
➡️ Ways to improve intimacy and sexual satisfaction
➡️ Why there’s no “right” way to experience desire
Understanding your desire style can change the way you approach intimacy, for the better.
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Dr. Frankie is a board-certified sex_ therapist, licensed psychologist, and the CEO & Founder of https://littlegaybook.com/. She has spent the last 16 years helping people in the LGBTQIA+ community find love through personalized matchmaking, coaching, and events.
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In 2022, Dr. Frankie gave a TEDx talk on the topic of sexual_ fluidity. You can watch it here:
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